Says swipe left if you’re a Republican in her Tinder profile. Millennial feminist. Cares about “love and equality.” Guess she doesn’t appreciate irony.
I ignore this warning sign, like a complete moron, because she’s wearing cute, adorable librarian glasses in exactly three of her pictures. Such a decision has consequences; this will end poorly.
What’s most likely to occur is I will bite my tongue, clamp up, not make any jokes, be a complete bore, because I’m worried she’ll brand me a Republican, since I don’t think it’s racist to suggest you’d prefer restrictions on undocumented immigration. Or whatever. She’ll eventually bail because I’m acting dull. I don’t blame her. I’ll become frustrated. I let myself morph into something I’m not.
If I do, somehow, find the gall to speak my mind, she will decide I’m “problematic” and also still leave. Fortunately, this doesn’t end with me getting angry at myself; at least I didn’t pretend to be something I’m not. Unfortunately, this scenario is infinitely harder to produce because I’m still convinced she will like me if I behave in a way that is amendable to her, despite this being a fool’s errand.
We agree to a date. I suggest Lorely Beer Garden because it has a heated outdoor patio. She doesn’t want to go there because of Covid. They didn’t have a scare or anything. Just doesn’t want to be seated near people in general. This begs the question why agree to a date, in NYC, in the middle of the winter, if restaurants and coffee shops are off-limits for you. I do not say that. I want to sleep with an attractive girl so I can feel good about myself. Instead, I say, “whatever makes you feel safe.”
We settle on Central Park. It will be 38 degrees outside. I don’t mind, but I am worried she won’t have any fun if she’s cold. I don’t need an additional obstacle. I have enough of an uphill battle already.
She asks me to get a Covid test, even though I had Covid six weeks ago. 100% of doctors agree it’s nearly impossible to get it again within the first twelve weeks. I explain this to her. Doesn’t matter. My love for appeasement would make even Neville Chamberlain blush. At least I can point to the cute, adorable librarian glasses. What’s his excuse?
I plan an amazing date. Buy her favorite wine. Had to bike to a liquor store in the West Village to find it. Wolffer’s Estate Summer in a Bottle. Also bought snacks — fancy crackers, cheese, and meats. She asked for cheese even though she’s “allergic.”
I pack a yeti blanket for us to sit on. It is large and waterproof. Can brave any element. Bring a second blanket and hand warmers in case she’s cold. I worry I’m trying too hard. Subconsciously compensating for the fact that we have nothing in common.
Morning of the date she says she’s scared to go to Central Park. Apparently, there’s going to be a Proud Boys rally near the entrance. She’s Jewish and “not looking to get hate-crimed.”
I cycle through potential replies:
“The official leader of the Proud Boys is a brown man named Enrique. Are you sure they’re neo-nazis?”
“Skin-heads don’t march in the cold!”
“Who told you my plan?”
The reply I eventually settle on is, “I can get there a few minutes early and give you the all-clear.” I feel my t-levels plummet. I sense her interest in me diminish immediately.
I quickly pull up the picture with cute, adorable librarian glasses. My strength is restored. I hope there are neo-nazis for me to fight today.
I arrive at Central Park. There are zero Proud Boys there. I’m surprised I was told I was wrong the last time I said Ibram Kendi is chasing bigotry’s shadow.
She arrives. She’s wearing a mask and the librarian glasses. The librarian glasses are incredibly fogged up because she’s wearing a mask. She cannot see anything. I suggest she take off the mask. She says she can’t until we’ve found our spot and put our blanket down. I ask why. She replies, “Because I don’t want to die.” I look around, there’s nobody for miles.
We search for a spot. Well, I do. She cannot see. She walks into fences and brick walls. I find a spot. Lay out the blanket. She takes off her mask. It is unclear how the extra three minutes saved her life.
We start drinking. The wine is delicious. I compliment her taste as well as my planning and procurement capabilities. It somehow leads to a conversation about the movie Tenet. She says Christopher Nolan didn’t light John David Washington properly. He doesn’t know how to light black actors because he never casts them in his movies.
I don’t have time time to cycle through responses and compulsively resort to making fun of her for having too many opinions. She giggles. I’ve found the middle ground by accident; don’t tell her she’s wrong, just lame.
We keep talking about movies. She calls Quentin Tarantino “racist.” I scream for the Proud Boys to jump out of the bushes and abduct her. She laughs even more. Can’t believe I didn’t start doing this earlier. What a phenomenal discovery.
She comes back to my apartment. We go to my bedroom. She starts talking about her sick cat. I long for the moments where she dubiously smeared my favorite filmmakers. I’m unsure how to pivot from the sick cat topic without sounding heartless. I decide to walk over to the chair she’s sitting in and kiss her.
I gently guide her in the direction of the bed. She is incredibly displeased by this decision. She swivels in her chair and turns her back to me.
I apologize. Which makes me feel weak. I didn’t do anything wrong. Explain that my back hurt. I was hunched over a small chair while we were making out. She doesn’t care. Seems to think I’m just using her for sex now.
We order food on my credit card. Letting me foot the bill seems to be a central component of millennial feminism and its conception of independence. We eat the food. She makes a joke about how she didn’t think her sick cat would lead to kissing. I’m hoping this bed snafu is behind us.
We go out on my roof. The sun is setting. It is picturesque. I kiss her. She does not reciprocate. Dead fish. I’m confused. Unsure how to handle this. I pull away but don’t call attention to her lack of enthusiasm. Maybe she was self-conscious about kissing right after eating?
We go back inside and continue hanging out. I give her time to go to the bathroom and freshen up. When she comes back I kiss her again. More dead fish. I now feel creepy, even though I’m not. This makes me resent her. I feel obligated to address what’s going on.
I do this by asking her if she’s uninterested or if she just wants me to take it slow. I said I’m fine with either. Just having trouble reading the situation. She responds “both.”
I check out, mentally. “Both” seems nonsensical. I can hear the television on downstairs. The Ravens just scored a touchdown. It is the playoffs.
She launches into a fifteen-minute explanation. It offers no additional commentary around the “both” reply, even though that seemed to be the intention. She might as well have been speaking French.
I get the feeling she was interested and then the bed faux pas, if you even want to call it that, happened, and it devastated her. She stuck around to see if by some miracle, I could say or do something that would reverse the effects of that suggestion and reestablish the dynamic we had when she first entered the bedroom. Which was an impossible task.
Or maybe I’m just a horrible kisser.